Today I remembered a line Carrie Bradshaw once said in the series “Sex and the City”: “Do women really just want to be rescued?”
It’s a question as old as the show itself. And yet, years later, it still hasn’t lost its meaning. In fact, in today’s world of women empowerment and independence, it may be even more relevant.
The timeless question of women and “rescue”
When “Sex and the City” first aired, women were starting to speak louder about career, independence, love, and sexuality. Back then, the question felt rebellious: how could a strong, independent woman ever want to be “rescued”?
But no matter how far we’ve come, sometimes we catch ourselves wishing someone would show up, understand us, and simply say: “Rest. I’m here.”
Not a fairytale prince—just a true partner
Rescue doesn’t mean a prince on a white horse. It means a partner. Someone who holds our hand, not because we are weak, but because we are tired. Tired of carrying everything alone. Tired of living every day in the “I can do it myself” mode. Tired of being expected to be both strong and soft, ambitious and gentle—all without losing ourselves.
What does “rescue” mean in 2025?
In today’s world, being rescued has nothing to do with fairytales. It’s not about someone solving your life—it’s about someone standing beside you while you build it. It’s emotional support, not dependence.
Sometimes “rescue” is just a message:
“Did you get home safely?”
Or a quiet reassurance:
“You’re not alone.”
Sometimes, that’s the purest form of love.
What women really want today
We don’t want to be rescued. We want to be seen. To live without the daily armor. To be vulnerable and strong, fragile and ambitious, loud and quiet—all at once, without apology.
Carrie never gave us the answer. And maybe that’s because the answer isn’t simple. Sometimes we want to be the heroines of our own story. And sometimes, we just want someone to gently hold our hand and remind us we don’t have to do it all alone.
Why this matters now
Today, women are taught to be everything—independent, successful, unstoppable. Somewhere along the way, we were told that asking for support is weakness. But it isn’t.
It’s not about being saved. It’s about being accepted as we are. Without fear of our ambition. Without judgment of our silence. Without someone loving us only halfway.
In a world where many want you around, but few know how to truly be with you, here’s my message: Don’t be afraid to be yourself. And don’t settle for anyone who doesn’t see all of you.
If this resonates, then you already know—you’re not asking to be rescued. You’re asking for true partnership. And anything less is just wasting time.
Sincerely yours,
Lori